Over 5,000 people have revealed how they are keeping their relationships happy and healthy, as part of a major two-year study into modern couples funded by the Economic & Social Research Council.
The 'Enduring Love?' study, conducted by social scientists at The Open University, found that simple acts of kindness are one of the most important things that keep people together.
The in-depth survey revealed wide differences in men and women in middle age; with women over 55 scoring lowest on relationship satisfaction and men three times more likely than women to mention sexual intimacy as something which makes them feel appreciated.
Other findings from the survey include:
- Parenthood shapes relationship quality more than any other factor
- Mothers are happiest in their life than any other group
- Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual couples, especially younger people, remain afraid to hold hands in public for fear of reprisal. However they are generally happier about their relationship quality and are more likely to act spontaneously
- Money issues are one of the most difficult aspects of modern relationships, but stressors such as being out of work do appear to pull couples together
- Couples cherish affection and cuddles as much as sexual intimacy though sex remains an important part of the relationship
Ruth Sutherland, Chief Executive of Relate said: “We welcome this insightful and important research into what makes love last. What this study shows us is that couples need to keep investing in their relationships.
“It's reassuring to know, especially in these tough economic times, that it's the small gestures of appreciation and affection, rather than the big romantic displays that really make the difference. The report shows the importance of creating a culture where seeking help to strengthen our relationships is seen as the norm."
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